Between the Sheets
Deciding when is the right time for you to have sexual intercourse ("sex") for the first time is a big decision to make, and one that needs a lot of thought.
When chatting to your friends you probably get the impression that "everybody is at it". In fact, no matter what your friends say, most teenagers under 16 are not having sex, and lots of young people wait until they are much older before deciding the time is right.
It is an offence to take part in sexual activity with anybody other than a freely consenting adult over the legal age of consent - see sex - the law for more information.
A person should only have sex for the first time when they feel ready. You should never feel pressured into having sex, and nor should you put pressure on other people. Forcing somebody to have sex is a crime - visit the rape & assault section for more information.
Sex is by no means the only way two people can show their affection for their partner - if they don't feel ready to have sex, people can show their feelings by kissing, hugging, or massaging one another, for example.
However, if you and your partner have made the decision that you are both ready to have sex, it is vital that the pair of you work out what method of contraception you are going to use. Safer sex means being aware of the risks you face. It also means taking steps to reduce your chances of getting or passing on a sexually transmitted infection, or you or your partner getting pregnant.
Practicing safer sex means you are able to enjoy sex in a way that also protects your health and well being. And because safer sex reduces your risks, you can relax and enjoy sex even more.
Doubts about sexuality can arise at any time during somebody's life and for some people discovering your sexuality can be a confusing and frightening time, and you may feel alone and isolated. Visit the sexuality section for more information and for contact details of organisations who may be able to offer further information or assistance.
