Sexuality
Definitions
- Homosexual = a person who is sexually attracted to people of their own sex.
Sometimes called: 'lesbian' (women) / 'gay' (men / sometimes women) - Heterosexual = a person who is sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex.
Sometimes called: 'straight' - Bisexual = a person who is attracted to both men and women.
Sometimes called: 'bi'
Finding somebody of the same sex attractive does not mean that you are gay. For a lot of people, this is just a part of normal sexual development, and they will go on to form relationships with people of the opposite sex.
Doubts about sexuality can arise at any time during somebody's life, and it is unrealistic to think that one certain pattern of sexual behaviour is 'normal'.
Some gay, lesbian and bisexual people know deep down from an early age where their feelings lie. Other people may take some time to discover their sexuality, and in fact it is quite common for people to have heterosexual experiences or relationships before finding out that homosexual ones interest them.
Be patient, listen to your feelings and pay attention to your sexual urges. In the end, you will know where your true feelings lie.
Discovering your sexuality can be a confusing and frightening time, and you may feel alone and isolated. Some people find their sexuality hard to come to terms with, as it may be different to what they believe in, or different to the way they have been brought up. People have differing views about homosexuality - some people think it is perfectly acceptable, whilst others disapprove altogether.
The important thing is to be honest with yourself and to find support. It can sometimes be good to talk to a counsellor or therapist to work out how you feel.
Alternatively if you already know you are attracted to people of the same sex, the most helpful thing is to find people you can be 'out' with and talk openly to. There are many different lesbian, gay and bisexual groups and events, which are often advertised in various publications. If you are feeling isolated, it can be a good idea to join a group, go to a social, or ring a gay/lesbian/bisexual telephone help and advice line.
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